Recently I had a chance to sit down with Takari Lee Christie. She is the daughter of VH1 Basketball LA wife Jackie Christie. She gives us a inside look at being the daughter of the powerhouse known as Jackie Christie.
MzChifab: Is Doug Christie your biological father?
Takari: No he is not I have known Doug Christie since I was 3 or 4 years old.
MzChiFab: Do you have contact with your biological father?
Takari: I have always been in contact with my biological father.
MzChifab: Why did you choose now to air out your mother’s dirty laundry?
Takari: I am doing this to tell my story more than airing out my mothers dirty laundry. I have always wanted to write a book, and this is the first time I followed it through.
MzChiFab: Just to clear things up are you doing this to promote your blog, or your tell all book?
Takari: More than anything I am doing this to promote my book, and give attention to my story.
MzChiFab: She is starring in VH1’s Basketball Wives do you fill like she should share her success?
Takari: No I don’t. I feel like she is given more credit than she deserves. Credit should be given where its deserved, and she does not deserve the credit.
MzChiFab: Are you upset with your mother for living a more lavish lifestyle then you do?
Takari: No I left my mothers house, so no not at all.
MzChiFab: This is not your mothers first TV show in 2006 she starred in “The Christies Committed” on BET. Were you or any of your siblings featured on that show?
Takari: My little sister and brother were, but I was not included at all. I was not living with them at that time.
MzChiFab: What is your earliest childhood memory about your Mom?
Takari: I really don’t have childhood memories of my mother. I was raised by my grandmother, my mother just came to visit occasionally.
MzChiFab: What did Mom do that you wish she had done differently?
Takari: I wish she would of fought the struggle with me. She left me with my grandmother who struggled to provide, while she went off and led her life.
MzChiFab: What does your mom mean to you?
Takari: My mother means the world to me, I have always wanted a mother daughter relationship with her. It bothers me that things are the way they are. I go through things that I wish I could discuss with her as daughter, but she is not there.
MzChiFab: You said your mother kicked you out of her house on to the street with your two children.How long had you been living in that house before your mother kicked you out? Were you and your children the only occupants in this house?
Takari: I had lived in a house my mother owned for a little over a year, with my youngest sons father before being kicked out without warning.
MzChiFab: Have you and your mother ever had a good mother/daughter relationship? What led to anything that dealt with you and your mother growing apart?
Takari: That’s a question I would like to ask her. We were never close at all.
MzChiFab: What is your relationship like with your brother and sister?
Takari: My sister Chani and I are really close, we have issues like any sisters but she is my other half. I don’t see my little brother, but I do speak to him occasionally.
MzChiFab: What is your relationship like with Doug Christie?
Takari: Doug has always been a father figure for me, he took me on as his daughter and it was hard work. Since my mother and I have not got along Doug has pulled away.Now we don’t have a relationship at all.
MzChiFab: You have stated that your relationship with your mom is like being in love with an abusive man, what makes you feel this way?
Takari: I tried to work things out with her over and over even though she was being mentally and verbally abusive.
MzChiFab: Has the abusive relationship you have had with your mother taken a toll on your personal life? If so how?
Takari: The relationship I had with my mother always made me feel like I was not good enough. I had a void in my life for love that I felt like I need to have.
MzChiFab: On your blog you’ve stated that you would like to be compensated for the pain and suffering you endured over the years. Exactly what type of pain and suffering are you referring to? How do you feel you should be compensated?
Takari: The compensation would be for my mother to love and treat me the same as my siblings. Not a monetary compensation.
MzChiFab: In a interview with Tight Rope Magazine your mother stated “When I had my first child, I didn’t know what to expect and I was 22 yrs old and I’m thinking, well if I go ahead and have my mom come and be with me, she could help me and show me…But never did I know having grandma there would change my whole experience as a mother.”
Takari: The statement she made is 100% untrue. My grandmother took on the full responsibility of raising me. I didn’t live in my mothers household until I was 9 years old.
MzChiFab: In all honesty do feel like she tried to be a good mother to you?
Takari: I think my mother did the best she could, but I don’t want her to take credit for being a mother when she wasn’t.
MzChiFab: I myself am a single mother of two and, know the struggles of raising children. What are you doing in preparation of making a better life for your children?
Takari: I am writing my book to help me deal with my issues so I can be a better mother to my children, and provide for them.
MzChiFab: Do you think at any point you and your mother will be able to mend your relationship?
Takari: I hope through the process of me writing my book, my mother and I could mend our differences and reach a good space.
MzChiFab: What does being a daughter of Jackie Christie mean to you?
Takari: It means that I am more stronger than most, and my goals
are higher being the daughter of Jackie Christie.
MzChiFab: So what do you have coming up next for the world, & when can we expect your book be release?
Takari: The first thing I have coming is my book. I have been through so much in my life, hopefully my story can help someone else.